Fino a una ventina di anni fa il matrimonio in Italia aveva significati e finalità diverse da quelle attuali. Per molte ragazze 
era il modo per mettere piede fuori di casa ed iniziare una vita propria, il transition from "child" to "mother" without transition "woman." For both spouses coincided with the transition from youth to maturity, then periods of life and almost antithetical opposite. Before people began to study the history of their own religion and know its origins, was the consecration of the vote of love between spouses. The marriage was also the oath of eternal love and indissoluble, when the divorce was a young institution and scandalous. It was the conditio sine qua non of proliferation, when children born out of wedlock was the fruit of sin. It was then the feast of two unrelated families that became a single body or join to a boundary made by erecting new spouses and their traditional core.
era il modo per mettere piede fuori di casa ed iniziare una vita propria, il transition from "child" to "mother" without transition "woman." For both spouses coincided with the transition from youth to maturity, then periods of life and almost antithetical opposite. Before people began to study the history of their own religion and know its origins, was the consecration of the vote of love between spouses. The marriage was also the oath of eternal love and indissoluble, when the divorce was a young institution and scandalous. It was the conditio sine qua non of proliferation, when children born out of wedlock was the fruit of sin. It was then the feast of two unrelated families that became a single body or join to a boundary made by erecting new spouses and their traditional core. Oggi, cattolici e non, nessuno crede o professa la religione cattolica nella integrità dei suoi precetti, dogmi e principi. Gli italiani continuano a sposarsi in chiesa, ma concepiscono il divorzio come una possibilità in caso di fallimento ( ??? ) del matrimonio. E si sposano in chiesa dopo aver convissuto nel peccato ( ??? ), magari avendo già dato vita a uno o due figli ( chi è oggi così incosciente o ricco da mettere al mondo più di due figli? ). Ad ogni litigio minacciano la separazione o comunque prospettano una serie di ipotesi dalle quali scaturirebbe il divorzio ( senza prospettarne not one from which to restore the marriage ). But it came too late (?? ) at the wedding, that is, after several failed relationships, and after reaching the and economic stability have already materialized marriage through cohabitation. The families do not connect more with the marriage because they already have done and undone and other unions are looking with suspicion the new couple.
Then marriages are impossible to celebrate. Her parents or he or both are divorced, maybe the second or third marriage or living with other people and so maybe the grandparents. If all goes well, the celebration will be present not two but three, four, five or even six families that they hate or tolerate badly. Organizing people in church and tables at the restaurant is more complicated than having carrarmatini territories and on the board of Risk.
The true guests of honor are not the parents and relatives of the couple but friends. The couple has grown and matured into a group, in a newsgroup or a chat and not within the home. The witnesses are hardly ever married couples. They are sweethearts to the first or second arms may each go its own way within a few months.
Say the truth today is done for the wedding gift list. The ticket was bought with marital megashow exotic appliances and kitchen facilities. And rightly so. In short, there are these 200 or 300 people, after stag and hen parties (?? ) have endured an hour and goes to church service, admiring the bride's dress from 3,000 € ( first and only opportunity to admire ) and machine (or carriage ) figosissima that will lead the spouses to a restaurant to enjoy delicacies beyond satiety superfine in a sort of resort with swimming pool in a handful of miles from the church. To dance and get drunk till evening. To messing with the newlyweds in their new home or staying in the room where before leaving for their honeymoon. No one says it openly, but everyone knows through side roads, which cost the food is between 80 and 150 € a skull and clear, it is appropriate for their contributions in wedding list is at least equal to the expenditure of their solace . But no one would ever be repaid so disgustingly stingy lunch: you pay a bit 'more. This horrifies some people. And 'the death of love, they say. And 'the manifesto of consumerism, rant. The truth is that the wedding list is the means by which friends and relatives give a hands of the bride and groom to begin their new lives decently. What is pain, difficulties and sacrifices like that of all others, but at least not immediately.
My famous reluctance to marriage, for a variety of reasons enumerable hard, falls in front of the new vision of the event. Those people who are sitting in church is there for the show. Perhaps only a relative or friend you see something particularly intimate more, but the union is already romantic moment. When me and the babe we decided to go ahead despite " who ," the "thing " and " but . When we decided to go to live together. When we realized that we were no longer "his and hers" but "we." It is not so much celebrating and feasting to celebrate the marriage but to find himself, to laugh, joke and get along well, in what is probably the only occasion on which we have around all the people who counted and counts for something in our lives. And show us their friendship, affection and love not only in words ( gossip you know what happens to), but actually giving us a hand, helping to create the "love nest" the furnishings that assisting the most as long as possible that happily we all wish.
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